It’s not every day that magic enters your life, but on December 21st, 2015 when I learned I was pregnant, it felt like magic. It was 3am, of course! I couldn’t sleep. I thought I might be pregnant and couldn’t wait to take a test. I quietly snuck out of bed so as not to wake my slumbering husband, flicked on the bathroom light, and grabbed two tests. I expected to wait those gruelling few minutes to see the results, but the double lines appeared almost instantaneously. Wow! We did it! I was ecstatic. I couldn’t help but barrel loudly out of the bathroom and back into bed where I placed the positive test result in my husband’s hand. He smiled sleepily and said – “so it’s positive?”
And, now, here we are at the 19-week mark and things are moving along. I overcame 2 full months of nausea and vomiting, and gratefully moved into the second trimester praying all along that this little baby would stay put. That’s because this isn’t my first time going through this…
Before the magic happened on December 21st, my husband and I had spent nearly 7 months recovering from the loss of our first pregnancy, which was ectopic and resulted in a painful and messy miscarriage followed by a long course of medication, abstinence and healing.
See, getting pregnant – and staying pregnant - these days isn’t so easy. In fact, it can be downright hard. We live in a world where women spend most of their fertile years trying not to get pregnant, then receive very little information on how to actually get pregnant, and then they wind up in my office chair wondering what on earth to do and if it will ever happen for them. I have been that person, too, sitting in the chairs of my OB/GYN’s & ND’s office wondering what on earth was wrong with me. It’s painful and scarring. Then it happens and you wonder if it will stick, knowing the unfortunate statistics of miscarriage. So you pray and you hope and you wish and you dream…
My husband and I are grateful this dream has come true, and it would not be without the enormous help of our family, friends, and the numerous members of our healthcare team, who include:
- Dr. Yaakov Bentov, MD & Dr. Tracy Malone, ND of TRIO Fertility
- Dr. Rachel Schwartzman, ND Doula
- Anne Matthews, Acupuncturist
- Mei Luo, RM
And the numerous other doctors, nurses, lab techs, ultrasound techs and genetic counselors, who have helped us be where we are today.
Today, as you read this announcement, I know that some of you will feel the same pain I felt every time I learned of the pregnancy of a friend, family member, or even celebrity. All I can say is… I know because I have been there, too. Let's talk about it. As I heard today on a news report on CBC - pregnancy loss is the worst, best-kept secret.
Overall, I wish to thank you for sharing in our joy. I hope over the next few months that I can present to you the ins and outs of a pregnancy journey from a naturopathic perspective with all its ups and downs… and all of its magic.